Kai Davis, Fuck I Look Like
Fuck I look like. No really. Fuck I look like?
I look like you got me fucked up is what I look like. You’re lookin’ at me like I’m not supposed to be standin’ here next to you, like we in the same class, but your idea of advanced is too advanced so my mind can’t match you. I think it’s my vernacular, how I got half the consonants and twice the apostrophes so my philosophy can’t be valid, like I speak slave and you speak slave master. This isn’t a plantation, it’s a classroom.
White people think they run shit, because they got money to buy a thesaurus. You say ‘gargantuan,’ I say big-as-shit. It’s still big as shit, it don’t really matter. I guess AP stands for asshole pretentiousness and if you don’t know what that means, look it up, find a synonym, you like doin’ that shit.
You also seem to like judging a book by the color of its author. Because, apparently, Maya Angelou is inferior due to her grammatical errors, but white man, Mark Twain can write a whole novel with nothing but grammatical errors and that shit is a literary masterpiece. Well, I can’t help but to pardon my peoples’ slang, cos real n[…]s ain’t real n[…]s if they ain’t got a twang.
I won’t apologize for mean-muggin’ from the back of the classroom, talkin’ ‘bout existentialism like a mothafuckin’ boss. It’s not your fault if you can’t buy it from (?) me. N[…]s can’t buy it from (?) me either, because as soon as I raise my hand for anything other than a bathroom break, I become a weirdo. And god forbid I excel! A 4.0 means I’m four shades lighter, because apparently, intelligence is a white trait.
At least, that’s what I’ve gathered. This one girl asked me, “Why would I use big words? So I can sound like you?” You know what I sound like? Like I’ve read a book before. According to my people, I act smart, so I act white. So I can’t be black and be smart because black people are dumb? All this is, is self hate and to them that’s acceptable, because white people told us n[…]s not to read 300 years ago and now n[…]s tellin’ other n[…]s not to read. What are we afraid of?
It’s like you think giving 100% means getting 100 lashes and my people don’t even know that we’re working with our oppressors, just passin’ on the torch while we can’t pass the bar, ‘cos the bar’s been set so low, we’re crushing under the weight and you expect me to cut class and get a F, just to perpetuate the stereotype that’s been instilled through this bullshit curriculum? Fuck I look like!?
I will never equate stupidity with my melanin or will I ever sacrifice my skin for the white man’s standards, so never ask that I speak for anyone but me, represent anything but what I stand for, and fight for anything but what I believe in, and if anybody ever expects me to do anything but be myself, they got me fucked up!
So uh... Yeah.
I reblog things. Kind of a lot.
People are funny.: An Encouragement to Check your Binary Privilege
I was scrolling my dash and came across this post. I decided to read the post because I might need these websites in the future (college is going to suck my wallet dry) and I could possibly show these websites to friends in need of help getting the things they need.
I went to the first website: http://www.thetransitionalmale.com. Yep, that’s right, folks. The website for the Big Brother Binder Program. I read the first page of the site which explicitly states that the program only offers binders to “Transmen/ FTM TS/TG and Intersexed Men only!” I was curious as to why they would exclude people from the program, so I went to the Program Criteria page.
Essentially, the program’s goal is to offer binders to people who truly need them and not to those who simply want to flatten their chest or appear male. This is understandable, as they’re limited to donations and have to properly sort out their priorities to make sure those who are in the most need of a binder can have access to one. However, I found it alarming and rather disturbing as to why they will not offer binders to genderqueer/non-binary identified individuals.
Their reason?
You might want to brace yourselves:
“Genderqueer and TG butch means to Transcend Gender lines, blurring these lines for purposes of mostly self gratification rather than to make mind and body whole. It is rare to find a Genderqueer female who is not a lesbian. That’s not a bad thing - calling oneself Genderqueer is a personal label preference, a conscious choice. But do not identify as a man, do not wish to live as a man, do not wish to die as a man, do not wish to work as a man, do not wish to chemically transition to male, have surgery, ect..
There may be some comfort for TG Butch and Genderqueer females to dress as men and using a male name but this is not what being a Transman is.”
Excuse me, what’s this about genderqueer people “Transcend[ing] Gender lines, blurring these lines for purposes of mostly self gratification rather than to make mind and body whole” ?
“Self-gratification”?
So you don’t think we want to make our bodies and minds whole? You think we chose to be neither male nor female, both, in between, all genders, etc?
This is the same kind of shit the trans* community has heard from cis people for the longest time. I absolutely cannot believe that a website that’s supposed to be trans-friendly would say bullshit like this.
Genderqueer people are just as legitimately trans* as FTMs and MTFs.
We have the same struggles as binary trans people do, if not more. We have the disconnect between sex and gender just like FTMs and MTFs. We experience dysphoria just like MTFs and FTMs. Just because society doesn’t recognize us as legitimate identities, doesn’t mean you should.
You’re sitting on your cloud of binary privilege. You can at least be perceived as your true gender without having to explain what it is. You can change your gender markers on legal documents, titles, etc. You can legally be recognized as your true gender.
Genderqueer/non-binary people such as myself, however, cannot do any of that.
Just because I don’t identify as a man, it doesn’t mean I don’t get as much chest dysphoria as one. Ask any trans man to describe their chest dysphoria and I guarantee you, at least one of those stories will be congruent to my experiences with chest dysphoria.
It should be about helping people with chest dysphoria in general, not just about helping trans men.
Another things that disturbed me from the site’s explanation of why they won’t help genderqueer people is that they referred to some genderqueer people as “genderqueer females.” Now, why would you call a genderqueer person, someone who OBVIOUSLY doesn’t identify as male nor female, a female? What does it take for people to learn that male and female aren’t the only legitimate gender identities in existence?
When will people stop being so damn ignorant?
And why, Big Brother Binder Program, would you EVER say this:
“calling oneself Genderqueer is a personal label preference, a conscious choice”
Why would you feed us the same bullshit we constantly hear from ignorant people who don’t understand that being trans* is in no way a choice? Why Would anyone ever choose to be something that puts us into a marginalized group, subject to all kinds of hatred and bigotry?
And why would you say that not identifying as male nor female is a choice, when that puts some people under the trans category, and you’ve actually said that being trans is not a choice? I just don’t understand why you would allow yourselves to partake in such hypocrisy.
For example:
“Being a Transman is not a choice and it is not a lifestyle. It is not a wake up one day and decide to dress like a guy. It is not about trying to act like one just because one feels more butch than feminine”
Ahem, being genderqueer does not mean “wake up one day and decide to identify as nether male nor female.”
I speak from personal experiences when I say that I DID NOT choose to identify as neither male nor female. I very much do want to transition, but not because I feel more “butch than feminine.” I do not wish to be perceived as a man. I do, however, want top surgery and to go on T for a while so I can make my body and mind whole.
So I implore you, lovely followers, and people in general, the next time someone attempts to invalidate non-binary/genderqueer identities, CALL THEM OUT ON THEIR SHIT.
There’s no excuse for being an asshole.
Figured this would be of interest to some of my followers.
From the Feminist Majority Foundation today:
We have just 13 days to defeat North Dakota Measure 3, which will be on the state’s primary ballot June 12th. It is a state constitutional amendment that simply goes too far and could deny a woman basic medical care such as birth control. We need your help.
This dangerous amendment states that “The right to act or refuse to act in a manner motivated by a sincerely held religious belief may not be burdened unless the government proves it has no compelling governmental interest…” We need your help because if this state constitutional amendment passes, it will certainly move to other states and it could have far reaching and alarming consequences:
• A man could claim domestic violence or child abuse laws don’t apply to him because his religious beliefs give him the right to beat his wife and children.
• An employer could deny birth control coverage or other needed medical treatment to a woman under its health plan on basis of the employer’s religious belief.
• A pharmacy could refuse to fill a birth control prescription on the basis of its religious belief.
Help the campaign to defeat Measure 3 and put an end to this so-called “religious freedom” amendment that could endanger women’s health. If passed, Measure 3 will spread - we cannot allow this to happen. Say NO to 3!More here.
I really REALLY liked this video uwu
AHHHHH hahah this is adorable and amazing and jeez wow. look at his little face!! not to mention that HAIR…
GOOPI LOOK
thats what my face looks like because im CRYING this is so BEAUTIFUL
me trying to read fanfiction (and some original work)
‘she tripped, but a pair of strong arms grabbed hold of her from behind before she hit the floor’
‘…she tilted her head back to look into his eyes, enjoying the feel of his warm arms wrapped around her torso’
‘…her hands intertwined behind his neck as their lips met’
‘…she wrapped her legs around his waist as
I want to aquascape. These are breathtaking. Like mini-ecosystems contained in an aquarium. Simply stunning.
oh wow plant-based aquascapes that don’t just look like a mess
these are really pretty *sign*
i still prefer ones that are mostly rocks though. me and rocks, we got an understanding.
The Consent Continuum
This is one of the sheets we were provided today at the conference on sexual assault. The Department of Justice has definitions of affirmative consent - a continuum from written consent to self-defense.
Written Consent
While unrealistic in most sexual situations, this is an explicit and verifiable expression of consent to participate in specific sexual activities.
Explicit Verbal Consent
This occurs when someone says, “yes” to a specific sexual activity. In this case, both the language and exact sexual activity are clear and definite to both partners.
Explicit Nonverbal Consent
Reciprocating a sexual activity or initiating a more intimate sexual activity. For example, if one person kisses another, the other person responds by taking off their clothes. When it is appropriate and “in sync” with the partner’s behavior, such nonverbal communication can be almost as clear as explicit verbal consent.
Ambiguous Verbal and Nonverbal Consent
Expressing some sort of consent in words or action that isn’t necessarily tied to a sexual activity. Examples are saying, “Let’s spend the night together,” or turning off the lights after reciprocating a kiss. Since these responses are ambiguous, there is a higher chance of misunderstanding, based on the other person’s assumptions and attitudes.
Absence of Consent, Acquiescence
Expressing little or no consent or refusal of the situation taking place. An example would be someone acting passive or quiet during sexual activities.
Ambiguous Verbal and Nonverbal Refusal
Expressing vague reluctance or discomfort to a situation. Examples are saying, “I’m not sure this is a good idea,” or only minimally reciprocating a sexual activity. Again, the ambiguity is vulnerable to misunderstanding.
Explicit Nonverbal Refusal
Actively interrupting a specific sexual activity. Examples are pushing away a partner’s hand, getting up, or putting clothes back on.
Explicit Verbal Refusal
Clearly saying, “no,” “stop,” or “I don’t want to have sex with you.”
Physical Resistance
Actively struggling to stop all physical contact, trying to get away, screaming, or calling for help.
Fighting Back in Self-Defense
Actively pushing, kicking, etc. to protect oneself by injuring the assailant. In an extreme case, this would include “justifiable homicide” in self-defense.
Communication is vitally important when it comes to sexual activities, and it is always up to you to be sure your partner is consenting to what is happening. It is never the victim’s fault. It is everyone’s responsibility to understand what consent is, and what it isn’t. If you are ever unsure about your partner’s feelings of safety and comfort, stop and ask!
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I even used the word “y’all” and you kept them. That’s hilarious and awesome. Most of my comments are actually in my tags. Just an FYI to followers who never read them. You’re missing out on amusement.
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